The world of ADHD Coaching is becoming more and more recognized as a powerful and effective support to help students with ADHD achieve their goals. Coaching is a collaborative, action-oriented partnership designed to help people make the changes they want. ADHD Coaching is Life Coaching specifically designed to address the unique concerns of individuals who deal with the challenges of ADHD.
To be effective, the Coach and the Client must unite on a shared agenda; one that the Client feels committed to and passionate about accomplishing. Coaching is hard work – it involves engaging in sincere self-reflection, commitment to action, and a genuine desire to make durable change. There are times in a student’s life when they are aware that they are struggling to keep up with their work and desire guidance and support. When parents call me seeking support for their child, I begin by exploring three issues with the parent:
1. What is the support your child is receiving from the school? Oftentimes parents recognize that their child is not coming home with adequate information to complete their work nor the ability to manage the process independently. While ultimately it is the student who must be responsible, the child may not have the skills needed yet to truly leave school prepared with the materials, the assignments, and the full knowledge of what is expected. Regardless of whether the student has an IEP or 504 Plan, I often suggest having a detailed conversation with the teacher to see if there is more appropriate support or collaboration with the parent or student that might help. I sometimes meet with the teacher to help them understand why, based on the child’s profile, the current support and expectations are not adequate.
2. What is your child’s level of awareness and concern regarding their performance? If your child is aware that they struggling to keep up and reach their potential and he wants to make the efforts to make changes in how he works, an ADHD Coach can help him set appropriate goals and work toward making those changes. [See ADHD Coaching for Students] Sometimes however, as much as parents recognize that a child is struggling and not performing to their potential, the student does not share the parent’s level of concern. The child might express that they are not worried or bothered (to the dismay of the parent) and that they “have things covered”. This leads me to issue number 3.
3. What type of behavior is your child exhibiting at home and what is the relationship between you and your child? When a child is struggling, it’s natural for a parent to want to help. If your child is doing fine with you at home but is just struggling to get his work done and manage his time and resources, and he is open to having someone help him with developing tools and strategies, then he is likely ready for ADHD Coaching. Unfortunately, sometimes the help parents want to provide, or believe would be most helpful, is not exactly what the child is open to or ready for.
If your child is not yet willing to accept support, or if perhaps there is excessive stress and tension in your relationship and your child is viewing you as “overbearing” or “nagging”, then if your child rejects the idea of ADHD Coaching you may want to hold off until you can help him be ready for that helping relationship. During this time, there are many things you as a parent can do to insure that you and your child are actively working toward that goal. I am here to support you with Parent Coaching to help develop the tools, strategies and insights that can help make that happen.