Ode to Motherhood

As some of you may know, my mother passed away during the holidays.  Fortunately, she had not suffered an extended illness, and I was able to be with her during her last days.

Because of the work I am blessed to do, I spend a tremendous amount of time thinking about and discussing the “job” of being a mom.  For my mother, it was the only job she ever had, the only one she ever wanted.  While not perfect, as I discussed with my family during her funeral, I choose to focus on the positive lessons I learned as I reflect upon her life as my mother.

My mother taught me, by example and by action, that I needed to stand up for myself and accept who I am.  As a young child, she had me explain to my kindergarten class that I had a cleft lip and palate and that was why I looked the way I did.  She had a newspaper clipping saved for me that said “I used to be handicapped but I’m not anymore because I refuse to allow it to be the most important part of my life.”  She stayed with me in the hospital each time I had surgery, sleeping on a chair, and had me and those around me focus on the fun of the toys I would get (and the extra cookies I got to eat late at night before the morning’s surgery).  It was part of who I was, my normal, and it never defined or limited me.

She stressed the importance of order, routine, and timeliness (okay, a bit too much for my personal style).  When something was broken or needed to be done, she never hesitated to approach the task with confidence and belief that she could do whatever was necessary – she was a strong and capable person.  I learned from her to approach challenges head-on and not to pass the buck or walk away.

Motherhood is a complex job.  We must learn to be mothers as we are still learning so much about ourselves. Each child’s needs, temperament, and circumstances are so different.  It takes time, observation, experience and patience to appreciate the unique nuances of each child and know how to adjust our sails as we find the right balance between our own childhood and the opportunities we have to influence that of our own children.

I hope each day that I can take the lessons I have learned, from my mother and from the many mothers I have been blessed to know both personally and professionally and be the best mother I can be.  It is the greatest job in the world.

18 thoughts on “Ode to Motherhood”

  1. I’m so sorry for your loss Cindy but what a wonderful tribute. None of us is perfect but all of us want the best for our children. I’m sure she was very proud of the woman you became.

  2. Beautiful words Cindy. I am sorry for your loss and appreciate you sharing your reflections.

  3. Cindy,
    What a beautiful piece about motherhood and a heartfelt homage to your Mom…..the lessons we learn from our mothers are many but most of all it is about love in its multiple forms. From one mother to another, here’s to the best job in the world!!!! Elizabeth

  4. Cindy,

    I had no idea about your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Unfortunately, I know what it’s likte to loose a parent and “it sucks.” This piece you wrote is beautiful and reminds us of the incredible influence we as moms make.
    P.s. I am here for you if you need anything

  5. What a beautiful tribute to your mother. You are a lucky woman. Sorry for your loss.

    I attended a Long Island workshop with you in October and learned so much. Blessings to you.

  6. Cindy, I am very sorry for your loss. My deepest condolences, my prayers and thoughts are with you. I enjoyed reading your story and although it comes with sadness, it is also uplifting and inspiring. Thank you for sharing

  7. Happy 2018 Cindy and my condolences to you and your family. Thank you for always sharing your journey with us and especially the personal stories about your mom. She sounds like an amazing woman and she clearly raised anextraordinary daughter. Speaking of blessings, you yourself have been such a blessing to our family. I’m certain this is the case for every family that has the privilege to meet or even more so, work with you. Thank you for all you do for parents, children, teachers and society. Your work is truly a treasure and makes the world a better and brighter place.

  8. Beautifully stated and even though it is sometimes all too easy to forget, yes, motherhood is absolutely the best job in the world !

  9. Cindy, I am so sorry for your loss. Your mother sounds like a strong and beautiful woman who has planted that seed in you. Sending hugs to you.

  10. Hi Cindy,

    I’m sorry to hear about the passing of your mother. The message you wrote about her is deeply moving. Your gratitude to her shines through.
    Extending my deepest sympathy to you and your family.

  11. Dear Cindy,
    I am so sorry about your loss. I too lost my mother. It has been 20 years that I am without my mother and not a day goes by that I do not miss her or remember all that she taught me. Your post was moving and beautiful. Being a mother is the most rewarding job that I have. I live for my son and I work everyday to be the best mother I can be to him. Thank you for your post. It was inspiring.

  12. Thank you for sharing this with your readers. I can relate to so much of what you said–being a mother is both a blessing and a complex job. I cant think of any other job quite like it. When I reflect on my own mother I get so much joy from her wonderful qualities and as I became a mother I also remembered not to do certain things. Even her flaws were good lessons for my life! I continue to learn from her even though she is gone, her voice and actions live on. I’m sorry for your loss but you have been blessed with a wonderful unique keel for your own life given to you by your mother.

  13. She Did Her Best ~ You Continue Her Work ~ Such Is The Cycle Of Life ~ Such Beautiful Words ~ Such Heartfelt Sentiments ~ Her Presence In This World Lives On Through You ~ And As You Can See ~ We Are All Very Grateful ~ Sending You Love & Sincere Condolences

  14. Cindy i was not aware of your recent loss my mother died many years ago but her memories always help me in the path of life , recently i loss my wife Janice and i find comfort with her beautiful memories I hope that your mothers memories will be of comfort to you too My thoughts are with you and family, Regards to you Steve and family. Ariel


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