After the recent National CHADD Conference, I met with my Coaches Cohort – a special group of ADHD specialists, advocates, and passionate professionals like myself – whom I have known and worked with for over ten years. Each year after the Conference, we meet to discuss new takeaways and insights to further our knowledge and … Read more
Ok, school started. Back to the grind. For some parents, it’s a relief to have the kids back to a routine. But for others, it’s a daily nightmare of prodding them along to reach the potential you know they have. I wish I had the magic bullet for you to convince your child that if they … Read more
If you are concerned about your child’s college search, ADHD, and accommodations, you are not alone. I recently spoke with independent college consultant Sara Zessar about college search considerations for students needing accommodations. Please see her poignant advice below. If you have concerns about how you can best support your child as they consider the role … Read more
Living with ADHD is not easy. Not for parents, not for siblings, and most of all, not for the child with ADHD. We have learned so much in the past ten years to help ease the path for these children both in school and at home. This presentation from Cindy Goldrich, certified ADHD coach, covers … Read more
Adult ADHD and Motherhood can be stressful. Below are 6 tips from Dr. Scott Shapiro, Psychiatrist and Therapist, that will help bring more calm, organization, and enjoyment to your daily life. I first became acquainted with Psychiatrist Scott Shapiro when we were colleagues years ago working for Dr. Edward Hallowell at the Hallowell Center in … Read more
When a child is diagnosed with ADHD, Parent Coaching can make all the difference in improving the quality of your and your child’s lives.
Parents usually receive standard recommendations for raising kids with ADHD, such as accommodations and modifications for school, perhaps therapeutic interventions for the child, and sometimes medication. Many times, parents are unaware of the social and emotional impact that ADHD has on learning, motivation, behavior, and the whole family system.
By relying on love, intuition, and logic, parents may unintentionally exacerbate the very challenges they are trying to remediate without the proper knowledge, tools, and insights. Parent Coaching with professionals who are specifically trained in ADHD and Executive Function can help parents see how their assumptions, expectations, and communication style may hinder rather than enhance their support for their children.
Outside therapies and interventions that are child-centered may not have a robust and consistent impact on children when parents do not have the skills and insights to adjust the family dynamics. Complicating matters, even the most loving couples don’t always see parenting through the same lens when raising kids with ADHD or any learning or behavioral challenges. The stress this often creates between parents can place a strain on their marriage and the family system, often risking detrimental lifelong consequences for all involved.
Parent Coaching, with a trained Parent Coach, can help parents explore their different concerns and perspectives. Often this collaboration reduces marital stress and, perhaps more importantly, provides the child with healthier guidance and support.
In my work, I have found that parents often benefit from having their own time and privacy to examine their interactions with their children. With my clients, I begin by helping them understand their child through the lens of how ADHD impacts every aspect of their child’s communication, action, and emotional reaction.
During Parent Coaching sessions, we explore issues such as:
parental enabling vs. supporting
improving communication so that children feel heard as well as understand their parent’s perspective
establishing boundaries that are productive and not triggering
establishing consequences that build skills rather than just be punitive
understanding what triggers challenging behavior rather than focusing on the action itself (whining, yelling, avoiding, etc.)
Session 1 can be taken alone, providing parents with a full psychoeducational understanding of ADHD and Executive Function. Neuropsychologists, Pediatricians, and Psychiatrists often recommend it to parents upon completing the child’s evaluation. By listening to other parents going through a similar journey, regardless of their child’s age, parents usually benefit from the shared experience. It’s wonderful to see the bonding and support between parents of high school children and elementary school children. I also collaborate with the children’s therapists to create a full circle of support.
ADHD is not a disorder, as I like to look at it. I see it as a difference with challenges. If you can understand your challenges and figure out the tools and strategies to deal with those challenges, you can succeed at whatever you want!
When parents can parent without shame, blame, or criticism, and instead apply tolerance, empathy, and support, they can more closely connect and guide their children towards success. Parent Coaching helps you achieve this.
Parents ask me all the time, “How can I help my child choose the best career for them? What are the best jobs for people with ADHD? Will my child succeed in the future? Will they be able to support themselves when they are adults? Will they get a college degree? Will they get a … Read more
I was recently asked by Nancy Weinstein, Founder and CEO of Mindprint Learning to be a guest writer on their Blog. Of course, I was honored. Below I share with you some tips and advice for Parent-Teacher Conferences and effectively advocating for your child. Even if your formal conference has passed, anytime you need more … Read more
Science has come a long way in the last decade. Mainstream medical, psychological, and educational organizations have concluded that ADHD is a real, brain-based medical disorder. Getting a proper diagnosis and appropriate treatment can significantly improve the lives of those who struggle. This guide will help clarify what is involved in getting a proper diagnosis … Read more
I am often asked if I think ADHD is over-diagnosed. My answer – yes. I also believe it is underdiagnosed. The problem is that there is still not one agreed-upon cohesive and comprehensive protocol for diagnosing ADHD; a real, life-impacting disorder that affects a significant percentage of people. And yet there are still many practitioners … Read more
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