It is an honor to have Chris Dendy and Ruth Hughes share about their new book to my PTS Coaching community. I have known both Chris and Ruth for many years through my involvement with National CHADD. They are each compassionate advocates and outstanding practitioners. Their new book, Launching into Young Adulthood with ADHD…Ready or … Read more
From Surf Dog Ricochet “Each person who watches this inspirational video “From Service Dog to SURFice dog” finds an individual message that touches them on many levels, bringing them to tears. This story is about what we all want — to be encouraged to discover who we really are… to be accepted… to find our … Read more
Ok, school started. Back to the grind. For some parents, it’s a relief to have the kids back to a routine. But for others, it’s a daily nightmare of prodding them along to reach the potential you know they have. I wish I had the magic bullet for you to convince your child that if they … Read more
Are you familiar with metacognition and SEL Learning? Have you wondered what the terms really mean and how you can help your children or students develop these skills? It’s simpler and so much more important than you may think. I would like to introduce you all to Rick Cohen, Assistant Superintendent & Principal in Metuchen, … Read more
When a child is diagnosed with ADHD, Parent Coaching can make all the difference in improving the quality of your and your child’s lives.
Parents usually receive standard recommendations for raising kids with ADHD, such as accommodations and modifications for school, perhaps therapeutic interventions for the child, and sometimes medication. Many times, parents are unaware of the social and emotional impact that ADHD has on learning, motivation, behavior, and the whole family system.
By relying on love, intuition, and logic, parents may unintentionally exacerbate the very challenges they are trying to remediate without the proper knowledge, tools, and insights. Parent Coaching with professionals who are specifically trained in ADHD and Executive Function can help parents see how their assumptions, expectations, and communication style may hinder rather than enhance their support for their children.
Outside therapies and interventions that are child-centered may not have a robust and consistent impact on children when parents do not have the skills and insights to adjust the family dynamics. Complicating matters, even the most loving couples don’t always see parenting through the same lens when raising kids with ADHD or any learning or behavioral challenges. The stress this often creates between parents can place a strain on their marriage and the family system, often risking detrimental lifelong consequences for all involved.
Parent Coaching, with a trained Parent Coach, can help parents explore their different concerns and perspectives. Often this collaboration reduces marital stress and, perhaps more importantly, provides the child with healthier guidance and support.
In my work, I have found that parents often benefit from having their own time and privacy to examine their interactions with their children. With my clients, I begin by helping them understand their child through the lens of how ADHD impacts every aspect of their child’s communication, action, and emotional reaction.
During Parent Coaching sessions, we explore issues such as:
parental enabling vs. supporting
improving communication so that children feel heard as well as understand their parent’s perspective
establishing boundaries that are productive and not triggering
establishing consequences that build skills rather than just be punitive
understanding what triggers challenging behavior rather than focusing on the action itself (whining, yelling, avoiding, etc.)
Session 1 can be taken alone, providing parents with a full psychoeducational understanding of ADHD and Executive Function. Neuropsychologists, Pediatricians, and Psychiatrists often recommend it to parents upon completing the child’s evaluation. By listening to other parents going through a similar journey, regardless of their child’s age, parents usually benefit from the shared experience. It’s wonderful to see the bonding and support between parents of high school children and elementary school children. I also collaborate with the children’s therapists to create a full circle of support.
ADHD is not a disorder, as I like to look at it. I see it as a difference with challenges. If you can understand your challenges and figure out the tools and strategies to deal with those challenges, you can succeed at whatever you want!
When parents can parent without shame, blame, or criticism, and instead apply tolerance, empathy, and support, they can more closely connect and guide their children towards success. Parent Coaching helps you achieve this.
If your child has an IEP or a 504 Plan for ADHD or other learning challenges, you may need some new tools and ideas to help your child adjust to working remotely. My daughter, Carly Goldrich-Wolf, MS. Ed. offers some solid guidelines on how to smooth out the challenges your child may face with distance … Read more
I recently wrote this article for ADDitude Magazine online. I hope you find it helpful. Your child or teen may be ignoring your requests for very good reasons. Instead of insisting on compliance and obedience, we can find out the source of their resistance by engaging in teachable moments. “My son just doesn’t listen to … Read more
I was recently asked by Nancy Weinstein, Founder and CEO of Mindprint Learning to be a guest writer on their Blog. Of course, I was honored. Below I share with you some tips and advice for Parent-Teacher Conferences and effectively advocating for your child. Even if your formal conference has passed, anytime you need more … Read more
Science has come a long way in the last decade. Mainstream medical, psychological, and educational organizations have concluded that ADHD is a real, brain-based medical disorder. Getting a proper diagnosis and appropriate treatment can significantly improve the lives of those who struggle. This guide will help clarify what is involved in getting a proper diagnosis … Read more
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